I’ve been considering writing this up for a couple days now. I figured I’d do it. I’ve been noticing a disturbing trend among those who defend Zoe, both here and on Twitter. You need to keep a couple things in mind.
Her being harassed does not negate what she did. It doesn’t matter if she is being doxxed or attacked or harassed in the context of what she did. If somebody steals something, but gets harassed afterward, it doesn’t change the fact that they still need to answer for their theft. It is entirely okay to condemn any harassment she gets, but at the same time DO NOT ignore, justify or excuse her behavior. And before you are so quick to take her word on things, remember that she has now been caught twice for fabricating harassment against herself.
Shaming cheaters is not slut shaming. Slut shaming is the act of shaming somebody for the number of people she slept with. If she were single, yes, attacking her for sleeping with 5 (Supposedly 7 now) men would be slut shaming. But the context of this matter isn’t that she fucked multiple guys, it is that she fucked multiple guys behind the back of her boyfriend. People are shaming her for the blatant disregard for both her and others relationships, not the fact that she had sex. And keep in mind, by her own definition (in that cheating is comparable to rape because the cheated on partner is deprived of consent) she is a rapist. In fact, she’d be a serial rapist.
Sex is private until it is used for professional gain. The use of sex in the work place, for work purposes or for public gain of any sort, negates the ‘privacy’ of that person’s sex life. Bill Clinton’s sex life was dragged out into public eye because he had sex with his secretary and then lied about it. A journalist for Indiestatic sent an inappropriate comment to a female game dev and his private comments and sex life were no longer private because of them. Zoe Quinn is no different. She was unprofessional and that unprofessional behavior came down to her having sex with people in the industry. She lost all right to privacy in her sex life when that happened. Any attempt to lock off her sexual exploits within the industry is trying to intentionally hamstring the discussion at hand.
Don’t shame the victim and whistle blower. If you immediately think that because Zoe gets, allegedly, harassed that she is the victim in all this, you are wrong. It is astounding that people say everyone is victim blaming her, without considering one solid fact. Are her boyfriend and the wives/girlfriends of the people she cheated with victims? To inherently claim that Zoe is a victim without even considering this is to show you don’t even consider that she did anything wrong. The boyfriend was a whistle blower, he exposed long running corruption in the industry and gaming media, and yes, it involved his ex. This is how corruption like this gets exposed. People get hurt and then turn on those they were protecting. Do no blame him for blowing the lid off this story.
Zoe Quinn has done other things other than sleep around in the industry. If you need to look up her exploits with the Fine Young Capitalist charity event. Look up Wizard Chan. Look up her using Robin William’s death as a marketing ploy.
Her game is not on trial here. Do not bring up her game. Do not act like people are attacking the game and it somehow destroys the game’s credibility. This is about her actions, not her game. Stop it.
Treat her like a game dev, not a woman. Remember the Indiestatic guy I mentioned before? He resigned. And wrote an apology. And did that all publicly. People claim that comments that Zoe Quinn hurt all women in the industry are wrong and misogynistic. Then you have to consider that people also paint men’s actions, like that of Assassin’s Creed Unity, the Indiestatic debacle and similar, as being proof of game culture being misogynistic. Or remember when JonTron used “Retarded” and got waves of harassment and hate for it?
Maybe you should consider that Zoe Quinn is being treated exactly how men in the culture and industry have been treated in the past. And you don’t like it simply because she’s a woman. That isn’t equality. That is coddling and condescending. You are treating her like a child.